In the Motherhood

Heather

A Fresh Start?

From Heather's Blog

in Blogs

by Heather

1 Comment

	A Fresh Start? Feb 22, 2008
Today my daughter asked me if we could move. She told me our house seemed used. Guess what honey, I’m used!! I would love to strike a match to this place and start over but this house of cards is being held up so delicately that one sudden shift in priorities- the whole place will tumble. Even though I want to snap at her the reality is I feel the same way. I want a fresh start and it just doesn’t seem possible. After the divorce and the re- adjustment period it would be nice to wipe the slate clean. Better yet it would be even nicer to re write the script completely. I would marry the right guy, pick the perfect career and avoid the unfortunate perm I got after college. Seeing as that’s not going to happen I will let my daughter pick out new bedding, settle for a blind date with my co workers brother and treat myself to a Japanese hair straightening.
Posted by Heather Feb 22, 2008 12:44 PM PST Report Abuse

1 Comment


	Hey, I'm the first to comment - and I'm a dude! Woo-hoo! This is what it's come to (single dad, forced to read a "mother's" website - why no male avatars?). I have to admit - I only hit the site because I think you're hilarious. Anyway, as someone who has had to "start over" once, I think there's a lot of value in moving once the "change in status" has been accepted. There's a lot of truth in the saying "you really can't move on completely until you've let go of the past". And, unfortunately, you're literally living in it. Once my daughter and I moved out of our old home we shared with her mother, I finally FELT free. I threw out a lot of junk that was just keeping me tied to the past, and it freed me to be more open to the future. And more things started to go my way. You'd be surprised how fast new opportunities (I'm talking dating ones) come in when you are really open to them. Of course the challenge, at this age, is meeting someone who aligns perfectly with who we are today (or learning to overlook what we perceive as flaws). I can't say I've mastered that yet, but I have a great life without the relationship drama.