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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
Jun 6, 2008 6:55 PM
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They are. My daughter eats more than the boys. I just talked to my mother and sense my father died she is down to 3 a day. That’s real good, especially when she was smoking 2 packs a day.
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
Jun 4, 2008 7:42 AM
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Thanks MomEof5+. It seems like prematurity is on the rise. I hope your children are all well also.
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 24, 2008 10:57 AM
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I totally agree...like the op, I also used to smoke and quit when I decided I wanted to have chidren someday. Quitting is hard, but is no impossible. Parents have to stop harming children exposing them to smoke and other drugs.
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 23, 2008 7:01 PM
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Wednesday, I'm so glad to hear that your son is doing well. All three of my children where premes. Especially my daughter. She was born new years eve 06. She was so tinny that preme cloths where huge on her. Smoking is a nasty habit to get into. I do feel for those who truly want to kick it but have a difficult time doing so. Most of the time its usually the people around them are not very supportive.
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 23, 2008 5:19 PM
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I actually have friends who smoke around their kids even in the car. To me it just seems selfish. I grew up with my Dad smoking and I suffered from asthma(still do), chronic bronchitis, and ear infections regularly. I smoke cigars now but I only smoke in my garage which is not attached to my house. I also don't smoke in my car at all. I just don't think it's fair to expose my child to such poisons just because I choose to smoke. JoyofBoys, I totally agree with you on the smoking while pregnant. I didn't smoke while pregnant but my son was premature anyway. While in the NICU many of the babies with smoking mothers were not well. I watched 2 die. My baby has some problems but not as severe as he could've been. He was 13 weeks early but he is thriving now. I applaud you for bringing up this subject.
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 15, 2008 7:23 PM
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JoyofBoys, your fine dear. I understood what you was saying. This is a great topic. Yes it does hit a nerve BUT, its a much needed topic. People tend to shy away from such topics because it hits so close to home. (as you well know it does with me) Just like the topic To Spank or Not To Spank. Everyone has their oppion and there not always what everyone wants to hear but if we don't face some of these touchy subjects head on then how can we ever solve them or another major issue in the world that needs to be addressed. This world would be a much better place for all if we all could discuss issues like this openly and feel that our voices are heard and our oppions matter. Being able to come together as a whole rather in agreement or not and agreeing and disagreeing with respect for others is what this board is all about. So don't shy away from such topic's embraces them and be honest with everyone and especially yourself on how you feel about it. I will respect you for it even if I'm not in agreement with you.(in this case I do agree with you whole heartedly) That's what make this world such an awesome place. With out such drastic differences in everyones oppions, personalities or lives this world would only be black and white. Remember that movie Pleasantville "WOW" just allowing yourself and everyones feeling flow through it add color to them and the world around them. Just look at all the beautiful color around you. It showed through your post and touched me. THANK YOU
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 10, 2008 4:46 PM
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I guess I could have named this topic something else. And I am sorry if people thought I was honestly asking that! I just have seen people on the news and heard of people acting that way thinking as the parent it is their right to smoke around kids. Just because you gave birth to life, does not mean you can hurt it!! I am sorry to hear of those who have lost someone so dear to them or see the pain that smoking can cause. My grandmother smokes and even though she is in her early 80s I have seen her suffer for years!!!!!!!! My mom also smoked when I was a child and it did affect me. I remember wanted so badly to participate in sports and I could hardly breath. I remember trying out for the track team and I could hardly run because I would be out of breath - and I was so sad because a lot of my friends were so good at it and I remember feeling not good enough. No clue at the time it was because my mom would smoke right next to me while watching the TV. A normal child that was not around smoking did not have those problems. So in one way or another it does affect the child. I know there will always be those people that just don't care and that makes me so sad. But the good thing is there are a lot of people who DO care! Oh and I did finally speak up today! I took my kids to the zoo today for mommy and me day and we were sitting having a picnic and someone was smoking not more that 6 feet from us and I walked over and asked him, nicely, to please go somewhere else because his smoke was going directly into our faces while we were trying to eat. He gave me a dirty look and OHHHHHHHH was there so many things I could have said - but I smiled and said thank you! Sorry smokers it is becoming a non-smoking world, you had better get use to it - because I think more and more people aren't afraid to say anything. If you think it is your right to smoke, It is our right to say something! Again, I am so sorry for those who have lost someone to this. Big hugs!
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 10, 2008 10:24 AM
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I just moved to the Carolinas, and people can bring their kids into the (smoking) bars. People bring them in all the time. I don't get it!
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 9, 2008 6:34 PM
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busymomma75, Thank You 
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 8, 2008 6:45 PM
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I am so sorry for your lost. *HUGS* to you. I know your hurting right now but when you get down just think of how free he is of pain now. And he knows you were there for him til the end, how brave of you.
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 8, 2008 6:11 PM
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busymomma75, TY my father came home to die on the 1st and died at 12:48am Sunday. When I went into his room to give him his next dose of Morphine at 10pm I know it was time. I was taking care of him at night after everyone left. I called everyone and said it was time. It took it that long for him to pass. He suffered more in those last hours than he did through out the whole processes. I will never forget the look on his face at those final moments. I made sure my mother said her good byes in the beginning. I knew what was about to happen is NOT something I wanted her to see. A choice I 'am so glad I made and she thanked me for latter. This is because I keep reliving that in my mind over and over when things are quiet and my mind isn't busy. I told her that if she didn't want to die the same way that she needed to stop smoking now. I don't know if I could handle going through that again. I could NEVER wish a death like that on my worst enemy..
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 8, 2008 9:38 AM
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If you read the original post you will see that the question isn't just that. We all thought the same thing at 1st until you read her post!!!
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 8, 2008 8:26 AM
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This is just plain crazy that in this day and age with what we know about the side effects of cigarettes that someone really needs to ask such an absurd question.
Yes my mother smoked w/all her children and yes she smoked in the house with all of us. Did we all turn out well, yes mostly but out of 4 children two smokes? Did I mention that we have a history of lung cancer, my mom's dad, grandfather and uncles died of lung cancer and now big surprise my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer has well. Now after 25 years my sister thought it would be a good idea to quit.
I don't want to hear of all the people you know who have smoked for decades and are fine, I guarantee you if they didn't die of natural causes they would have eventually died of emphysema or cancer.
As far as the second hand smoke goes, why should everyone else pay for your decision to smoke, especially young children. It absolutely infuriates me when I see parents smoking with children in the car and worse the windows rolled up nice and tight. God, it should be considered child endangerment.
My aunt and uncle smoke or years around their 4 young daughters and all of them had bad respiratory problems growing up and didn't get better until they moved out.
PS For all those parents who tell their children that smoking is bad for you and then stands outside puffing away, you better start practicing what you preach or you pass the addiction on to your children, sound harse too bad, the truth can be harsh. However know that I say this out of concern and love. I would hate for a child to feel how I feel when I lose my mother to something can could have been prevented.
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 5, 2008 6:56 AM
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I am a reformed smoker. My husband still smokes. It has always been a rule in our house that we have to smoke outside. No smoking in the house with the kids. My 8 yr old daughter will not stay the night at her friends house down the street because of smoke. I do not have the heart to tell them that because they will think it is coming from me.
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Re: Why isn't it okay for me to smoke around my kids?
May 2, 2008 10:37 AM
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momEof5 I am sooo sorry to hear bout your dad, I sympathize cause I watched my mom go through the same thing 13 years ago ( I lost her when I was 9 monthe pregnant with my 2nd and I was 20yrs old) and I know no matter how prepared you are for it knowing its coming, you really never are ready. I have open ears if you ever feel the need to chat since I have been where you are. I wish my kids got to see their grandma and know her. I am glad your kids know him and cherish all the time yous have left. My thoughts are with you.
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